Greater than half of Brits are affected by FOSY – a ‘concern of claiming sure’, in line with analysis.
Pushing your self out of your consolation zone could be a scary prospect and generally saying ‘no’ to a brand new alternative looks like the better and safer choice, a lot in order that over half of us typically decide to take that route.
On the subject of a few of the causes we do not say sure, the ballot of two,000 adults revealed that 37% of us put it right down to insecurity, whereas the identical determine admits monetary worries have held them again within the final 12 months .
For these residing with FOSY the typical grownup says no to one thing they really wish to do each 10 days, with these within the no camp lacking out on making new pals (35%) and attempting a brand new pastime (32%).
Seems the concern additionally impacts love lives with a 3rd (33%) admitting FOSY has meant they’ve prevented taking the plunge and asking somebody on a date.
However as January is a time for self-reflection for the 12 months forward, it is vital to attempt to banish this ‘concern of claiming sure’ for private progress.
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Psychologist Emma Kenny says that whereas FOSY is holding many people again conquering the concern can have a optimistic affect on lives shifting ahead.
“FOSY is a typical phenomenon, linked to the feelings we expertise when confronted with alternatives that push us exterior our consolation zone,” she explains.
“When there’s an opportunity we may be judged or we’ve pre-conceived concepts that we’re not good at one thing, our instinctive, knee-jerk response is to say ‘no’.
“The analysis tells us in January, it is much more widespread to say no to one thing, even when it is one thing we wish to do.”
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Kenny says there are some vital advantages of doing extra of the issues we want we might however are afraid to say sure to.
“Once we tackle new experiences, we develop in braveness and develop private resilience which will increase our confidence and shallowness, making life really feel altogether extra rewarding,” she explains.
Fortunately, it appears we’re eager to discover new alternatives this 12 months with the analysis, commissioned by Crodino, revealing that Brits wish to use 2023 to place themselves on the market extra, with three in 5 eager to beat the January blues by saying sure extra typically.
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To banish the FOSY, 34% plan on accepting invites to extra social gatherings, and 23% wish to push their boundaries within the meals stakes by tucking into delicacies they have not tried earlier than.
Greater than a fifth (21%) additionally wish to up-skill their cooking skill over the course of the subsequent 12 months.
And after a number of years of restrictions, 36% need their life to be busier and with extra selection.
Stepping exterior their consolation zone is one thing many people are trying ahead to attempting with 43% believing saying ‘sure’ to extra might convey a way of achievement.
Consequently, the analysis, performed through OnePoll, discovered 40% hope it can make them a extra optimistic particular person.
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High 10 issues to say sure to in 2023
1. New journey and vacation locations
2. Extra social actions and plans
3. New friendships
4. New well being and train regimens
5. New hobbies
6. Cultural experiences
7. New profession and job alternatives
8. New alternatives for self-care
9. Dwell music occasions
10. New meals and delicacies
Further reporting SWNS.